Our Dating Era

So while Josh was giving me attention he also had another girl. Yes, you heard me right, another girl over in Ephriam. I knew about her and also knew that Josh didn't like her that much so I wasn't too worried. But according to Josh, he was just waiting for me to go on my mission and didn't think we would end up anywhere. He just thought of me as a friend... with benefits. But he did call almost every night or he would drive up after work from Nephi and come hang out. My roommates loved him... well almost all of them. One even told me that if I decided to dump him, she wanted him. Around New Years, I told Josh to stop the toucher on the other girl and just dump her already. He did.

Anyway, I would have him come to church with me and to FHE and other outings and he would come along. My bishop liked him cause he could speak Korean and so could Josh, well kinda, at least enough to pass the military test and say he could. Then came the time when I could get my mission papers. I went and talked to my bishop and was thinking about possibly not being with Josh anymore and my bishop could only talk about Josh and how I'm good for him and that marriage is hard but possible and really didn't talk much about a mission but still gave me my papers. Needless to say, there was a lot of them and I didn't fill out a single one. He put me in a preparing for the temple class and kinda changed my mind on things. In April, Josh invited me to go on a river trip with his uncle Blake and a few other guys. It was really fun and it made me starting thinking about things.



Also around that time, my family and his family went on a four-wheeling trip out to the San Rafel Swell and on the way home I was teasing Josh and typed in his watch "how about Aug before school"... Thats all I said. I knew he wanted to go up to Logan for school and having a long distance relationship was hard. Delta and Mapleton are about a 100 miles apart and I wanted to see him more. Well, he never said anything about that and we kept seeing each other.



In May 2005, Josh was talking to his tosser Craig and said something to the fact that I wanted to get married in Aug before school started. Well, Craig told Josh's brother Ryan and Ryan told his mom.. and his mom likes to tell people good news.... So I guess we're getting married?

On mothers day, I decided to talk to Josh about this and decided that none of us minded it if it happened. I knew that he was the one for me cause I could still manage to like him for more than 2 weeks, unlike all the other guys in my life. Yes, I also prayed about it. So we decided that we had better tell my parents before they heard from someone else.

Thats how it happened. We planned for the wedding to be Aug 12th in the Manti Temple. Josh had an army school to go to for 3 weeks, a week before our wedding and then school started shortly after. We went to Reno/Sparks/Lake Tahoe, Nv for our honeymoon and then came back for a reception and made the long trip up to Logan where we had our first apartment together.

How we met

Josh and I first met back in Dec 1997. Well, I had just moved to the Delta area and was in Mr. Schmidt's band class. I remember it but don't remember Josh. He was in the back in the brass section and I was a little scared new clarineter... So needless to say, he seen me and I don't remember him.

I think I did get to know him through band though. I remember him in High School and during our Sophomore year, Josh, Ammon Tenney and I were good friends. We do stuff like, "Lets trip Kara down the halls..." or "Steal Kara's shoes and put the on top of the doors so she can't reach them" or even "Find out Kara's locker combination and do one of many things: Steal all of her books, Fill it full of crumpled up newspaper or completely re-arrange it so she grabs the wrong books.." Yeah, we were good friends. By our Junior year, I joined Jazz band and So did Ammon, I think.. and Josh was left in the main band with all the freshman and other people with minimal talent. He eventually checked out and Ammon and I thought he hated us for ditching him and he thought that we hated him and left him.

We went our separate ways from then. He found new friends to party with and I became the Band President and Drum Major and loved it. We both graduated in 2002 and I started my journey at SUU in Cedar City and Josh joined the Army and went to basic training back east. I went to 2 years of school and decided to do something crazy and moved to northern California for a while. I didn't have a job and so I spent most of my time on the internet talking to friends. Well, Josh's older brother Derk was online and started to talk to me. All I could think of was "great, he is so annoying... I wish I was on invisible still..." So being the nice person I am, I started to talk to him and asked him how he was doing and how Josh was doing.. Derk suggested that I give Josh a call and I told him, "No, I don't call boys, if he wants to talk to me, here is my number." And of course I didn't give him my cell number, I gave him the house number that I wouldn't have for the rest of my life.

Surprisingly, Josh gave me a call a few weeks later. We talked for about 4 and a half hours. He told me crazy stories about back east and that he has been doing Army schools for the last 2 years and only had about about 3 months left and then he was coming home. We also cleared up the whole "we hated him, he hated us" thing and just caught up on each other.

The calls continued and I started to like him again. I eventually gave him my cell phone number and figured I could handle him having it. In November of 2004 I moved back to Utah and Josh had finished up all his stuff and had moved back a few weeks before me. The first night I was home, guess who came knocking? Yeah, it was Josh and his little Bro Ryan and another friend of ours. He wanted to know if I would want to go Bunnie Bashing with him. (Yes, we still do that and no, I have never bashed a bunny). There is something about watching grown me run after the smallest animal with a bat or golf club and going crazy to catch it, then falling down because you can't see where your going.

Anyway, I was only home for a week and Josh was over more times than not. I moved up to Mapleton so that I could start work a week before Thanksgiving. I'd had a few calls but then Josh came up to see me after Drill the first week in December. He met my roommates and we talked for hours on the couch. I knew Josh was the more shy type when it came to having self confidence to asking a girl out that he thought was way WAY out of his league so I asked him out on a date for a Friday night the 17th of Dec. (I think). My roommates were planning on doing a roommate date ice skating and had set me up on a blind date and I was fine with it, but to make sure I was ok staking, I took Josh the night before. Josh had never skated and I thought it would be funny to watch him try and give the opportunity to be a little romantic and maybe hold hands or something... but boy was I wrong. We were not gracefully ice skating... Josh was looking like he was a pro hockey player, but still working on his stops. He was whipping around and playing tag and running off and just full of energy. Oh and Josh didn't think it was a date... he accidentally left his wallet in the work truck so he just thought it was nice of me to bail him out and pay his way.

Well, the date or "hang out" as Josh calls it was fun. Later in the car on the ride home we listened to the radio and it was the top 10 countdown. Josh thought that he knew what the top song was and wanted to see if he was right. So we hanged out in the car listening to music and Josh was just being so cute that I couldn't take it anymore and got his attention. How you may ask? Yes, I kissed him. Now he will tell you that I attacked him, but its just not true. :D